Day 58: Musings…Differences

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Eliza said…
Things you would do differently if you could. I was talking with a friend the other day about things we wished we did or didn’t do with our first child that we would like to do differently if we are blessed with a second child. Could be different products, sleep training, more pictures, etc.

Before I start, I must bring attention to the fact that one year ago today I found out I was pregnant!  And now for the musings…

This is a hard one for me b/c I try really hard not to think about how things could have been better if I did things differently.  I like to just move on and not relish in any mistakes I think I have made.  Also, despite Abby’s health scare, overall she’s been a really good baby (knocks on wood) so it’s hard to think if there were new fancy things to try.  But after some thought, there are some things I think I will do differently if I’m lucky enough to have #2.

1.  I would really love to try cloth diapering.  For the green factor and for the money factor.  But, I don’t know of the hubby will be down.  I might have to do all the poopy diaper changes if that were the case.

2.  I really didn’t read up on any baby rearing methods.  There’s the Whisperer and the Happiest Baby on the Block and that dude Ferber.  I’ve just been winging it with Abby.  I like to call it the “no schedule” schedule really.  But I think if #2 weren’t as easy as Abby has been (and by easy I don’t mean that she doesn’t have her moments…she just responds well to us as her parents) I might look more into a specific method.  I did purchase the Baby Whisperer book about a month ago, but I haven’t cracked it open yet.

3.  As far as pictures go, with Abby we haven’t done any professional ones.  Just not really into it…unless someone is offering a free session .  But I don’t have pictures in the hospital of me holding Abby for the first time of of my husband holding her for the first time.  This is mostly b/c she was whisked away from us and taken to the nursery to monitor her breathing.  So with #2, I would want to make sure those pictures are captured…but I think it will make me a little sad that we don’t have them of Abby.

4.  As far as sleeping goes, Abby is still in her pack and play in our room.  I didn’t fathom her being in there this long, but I think with her health scare, we just want to keep her close.  And also there’s the factor that she’s our first and I still sometimes check to see if she’s breathing even though she is almost 4 months old now.  I think with #2 we might move him/her to their own room sooner.  Because with Abby it’s taken a bit longer for her to nap in her crib during the day.  Perhaps if we moved her sooner, day time naps would have been regulated a bit sooner.

5.  Because things were so chaotic with her birth…with it going so quickly that I wasn’t able to get an epidural…I forgot to speak to the nurses/doctor about wanting her to be brought to my chest right away…skin to skin…and to see if she would latch on.  (I was just in so much pain that forming sentences was not doable at the time.)  So for next time I will make sure that this wish is written on a piece of paper so that all I have to do is hand it over…b/c I’m pretty sure I will do it natural again now that I know I made it through Abby’s birth ok despite the most horrible pains ever…which leads to 6…

6.  Since I now know I can make it through natural child birth, I want to do more work into making it more bearable.  Get a Douala maybe…take some Bradley classes perhaps.  But of course I will be open to whatever another delivery will hand me.